🌿 This Is Not Your Typical Church-Lady Advice

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Let me be honest with you…

This is not the kind of advice you hear in the wives’ meetings at church. I’ve sat in those rooms. I’ve heard the same recycled suggestions. I’ve listened to women pour out their pain only to be handed advice that wasn’t biblical… wasn’t wise… and didn’t work.

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A lot of what we’ve been taught as Christian women:

❌ taught us to tolerate dysfunction
❌ taught us to silence ourselves
❌ taught us to “pray harder” instead of heal deeper
❌ taught us to abandon our identity for the sake of peace
❌ taught us to idolize marriage instead of honor God

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And it left so many of us feeling:

• stuck

• confused

• disempowered

• overlooked

• spiritually drained

• emotionally exhausted

 

But then God gave me fresh revelation — not tradition… not clichés… not church-lady culture.

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One Friday evening, I collected my depleted self and went to wives’ group meeting. As I sat there listening to the facilitator share all kinds of insights of how women can serve their husbands better---in exchange for lovingkindness. I sat there with the most recent revelation from the Lord swirling around in my head. I felt the Holy Spirit nudging me to share and I was apprehensive. The thought of sharing it out loud, knowing how different it was from the rhetoric currently being shared, made me ask the Lord, again, if it was really Him that spoke to me. The more apprehensive I became, the stronger the urge became to share. I decided that if the revelation was rejected, at least I had been obedient. So, I raised my hand and the facilitator called on me and I said it---out loud.  When I shared what the Lord had revealed to me, it shook the room. I heard gasps of relief all around the room and "Mmms" in unison like a chorus being sung by a choir of rescued women.

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I could tell the facilitator didn’t like it because it wasn’t the status quo. She tried to explain it away but there were too many scriptures supporting the revelation.

It wasn’t the “just pray and submit harder” script.
It wasn’t the “pretend everything is fine for the sake of appearances” message.

But do you know what happened?

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After that session, so many women, of all ages, came up to me one by one and in pairs and threes— some with tears in their eyes — and some with the biggest smiles on their beautiful, glowing faces saying:

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“Your words set me free.”
“I’ve never heard anyone explain it like that.”
“That was the truth I’ve been afraid to admit.”
“Thank you for saying what so many of us feel.”
“This is the first time I feel hope.”

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They wanted my number. They wanted to stay in contact. They wanted more insight on the revelation. And that…

That moment was my confirmation. God wasn’t just counseling me. He was calling me. He was calling me to minister to women who are navigating seasons of:

💔 emotional confusion
💔 spiritual depletion
💔 marital numbness
💔 identity loss
💔 frustration
💔 self-sacrifice that costs too much
💔 cycles that drain the soul

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Women who feel invisible, unheard, and spiritually stuck — even while sitting in the pews every Sunday.

God made it clear:

“They don’t need more clichés.
They don’t need more guilt.
They don’t need more shame-laced advice.
They need clarity, truth, and fresh revelation.”

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And this Intensive is the full expression of that calling.